Love, even when it's hard

Updated: Jan 11

Abraham Lincoln quoted "Nearly all men can stand adversity, but if you want to test a man's character, give him power". As with love, the hardest to love is the one who is difficult to love and have nothing to give you back. Following is my perspective as a daughter, mother, wife, daughter-in-law, sister-in-law, niece, aunt, cousin, friend, sister-in-Christ, God's child.

Offsprings

When they do not meet the world's definition of beauty, stature, abilities and achievements,

When they do not make it to the best school or best education establishment,

When they are not awarded the best musician, best academic scholar, main cast in the production or most outstanding sportsperson,

If they can't afford to buy us expensive gifts when they grow up,

When they do not make us proud enough,

When they have gone astray, and all we can do is pray, that Jesus will continue to fill their lives with grace,

Because love is unconditional, we need to embrace.


Parents

When they are unable to give what other parents could,

When we have our own families and we expect them to raise our troop? When they expect us to repay them,

although there's no way we could,

We may be remarked as good for nothing, But we still honour them, though we may not match their highest rating,

We can't choose our parents but we still love them unconditionally, whether they realised it or not,

Because love and honour don't come in the form of gifts nor material rewards.


Relationships and friendships

When we are being betrayed, least expected,

When we are constantly being taken for granted, When we are expected to return favours because we aren't aware our contribution is due,

When bad history repeats itself, oh no! déjà vu! It's easy to love others who love us, But we want to love because we choose to,

And love is not merely saying I love you, nor lovey-dovey posting,

All in all,

Love is an action, unannounced, when no one is looking.