Forbearance and Patience



Wait, be patient.


Easier said than done. Patience is some beast I've struggled with since young. Having said that, with the technology advancement and convenience in the present era, my younger generation expects instant gratification.


Are we there yet?

How many more minutes till we get there?

The wifi is so laggy (new term I've learned)!


Sounds familiar? These complains literally make me feel that in comparison, I am not that impatient after all. Hah! But unfortunately, it's just a lame excuse as it doesn't alter the fact that I am still very impatient in various aspects.


When dispute, misunderstanding, disagreement, disappointment and expectations are not met, how should one react, especially when one is a boss, leader or a business partner? What would you do? If we think we are nowhere in the wrong, do we fight impatiently just to win? Or do we show empathy, understanding, forbearance, kindness and patience to the other party by trying to work out a solution together? The latter requires one to swallow the pride which is not an easy feat. No one wants to look nor feel defeated, timid and weak but actually it is through these kind of situations that people in authority are being put through character tests.


My recent cancellation of the Afternoon Tea or "supper club" event, a term more commonly known to others, is one let down. However, this is not the first. I've encountered all sorts of failures and made countless mistakes throughout my life but I am thankful to my parents for not overprotecting me but instead allowed me to face reality and learn through challenges so that I could personally discover what worked and what didn't. Over time, the experiences have trained me to bounce back, be resilient and move on instead of choosing to mourn or sink into negativity. These "opportunities" enabled me to practise and develop positive response system when life throws me a curve ball. That's exactly how I felt when landing on the decision to cancel the event. So, yes it is added to the list of failures, I am knocked down but not destroyed.


In fact I'm excited on what the new ideas as a result of something that didn't work would bring. Struggles, mistakes and failures birth new ways of working and improvements. If you are convicted of pursuing some vision for good and not for selfish reasons but at the verge of giving up due to its challenges, please don't because what I've learned is that great visions are rarely meant to be easy. I hope this verse is encouraging to you as much as it has encouraged me during this time.

2 Corinthians 4:8-9 "We are hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not abandoned; struck down but not destroyed".


As I also ponder on the following verse, I felt that I'm bearing each of the fruit in different moment and phases of my life.

"Galatians 5:22 the fruit of the spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness,

faithfulness"

I've shared about joy and peace in my previous blog and I'm currently being trained to be patient. Love, which is most pivotal of all is not just about loving someone because he's your husband, son or father. It's deeper than that and when the time is right, I will share what really struck me as genuine love. Be patient :)


Understanding and patience are always significant when working with others